So I did some research and found a great website that had a blog written by an LCSW, which is a licensed social worker, or a counselor. So here’s her 10 tips and also a source to the page where I got them from! I really enjoy her first five quite a bit. Focus on the present, stay in the moment, and find a constant, are all really great ideas.
1. Try and identify one thing that remains consistent through this transition, and pay attention to it. This can be something as literal as “I take a shower every morning”, as practice-based as “I take 5 deep breaths when I notice myself becoming anxious,” or as metaphoric as “I am a tree withstanding a storm” or “I am a stone in a raging river.” Or, you may want to try identifying, out loud, all of the parts of you that remain steady despite the changes around you: “I am a woman. I live in ____. I am a mother. My baby’s name is _____.” When we feel ungrounded, it can be reassuring to know that there is something that we can count on.
2. Make sure you are meeting your basic needs. Sleep, nutrition (including adequate protein intake), exercise, and water intake are all imperative for brain health and functioning and can help us to tolerate the effects of stress.
3. Stay connected. As the weather changes, we all seem to go back indoors and, too often, this isolation contributes to feelings of depression and anxiety. Reach out to those people in your life whom you feel your best around.
4. Ask yourself what it is that you need to feel well today. In other words, you can’t change the change, but you can make choices around the way you care for yourself during this change. Perhaps you need to ask for more help/support from your partner, family or friends. Maybe you need a bit more exercise, or more rest. Maybe you need to cut down on your to-do list. What you need now may be different three months from now.
5. Be kind to yourself. Yeah, I know. This one can be hard, especially if you are one of the many who has very high expectations of yourself. But, the truth is that most people feel the ripple of change and so it makes sense that you may begin to feel a bit un-moored at this time. When you beat yourself up for feeling out of sorts, it adds a whole new level of distress.
6. Talk about it. If you give yourself permission to talk about the effect seasonal change is having on you, you will most likely find that others understand and validate how you feel. Company is truly healing.
7. Plan ahead for the winter months. Many people suffer from a real illness called Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) that occurs, most commonly, during winter when the daylight hours are shortest. If you know that you struggle during the winter, you may want to consider thinking ahead so that you are prepared to take really good care of yourself when you need it most. If you cook, you may want to consider preparing some healthy meals that can be frozen and reheated when your motivation for cooking is lessoned (or asking friends and family to help you with this!). If you are not currently taking a multi-vitamin, you may want to consider starting one so that you build up your immunity, your nutritional intake, and your energy levels. Perhaps you can look ahead at finding childcare for times when you crave breaks away from the house, exercise that does not involve being attached to your baby, and/or connecting with a community of friends. Maybe there are exercise classes that you can pre-registiter for at your local rec center. This transition time may be the perfect opportunity to look ahead to what you might need to feel well later.
8. Add color to your home. This is kind of a materialistic one, I know, but this may be a great time to add color and brightness. Those of us who live in the land of seasons get a burst of color (albeit fall color) and then all of the color in our environment seems to disappear. Re-charging your environment may help to keep your spirits up.
9. Breathe. Seriously. When we get ramped up in our emotions, we tend to move faster to stay ahead of feelings that are distressing. We do more. Unfortunately, counter to expectation, this actually can make us feel more anxious. If you notice that you are becoming depressed or anxious during this time, you may find that a few deep, belly breaths helps to calm the tension … and slow you down.
10. Try your best to have perspective. This is hard when you aren’t feeling great, but it is important. Seasons change. Transitions come and go. Those of us who are mothers know that nothing stays around forever … neither the pleasant (she is sleeping!) nor the unpleasant (he will never stop crying!). To use a very over stated phrase, “this too shall pass.” That doesn’t mean that this transition will be easy, but it won’t last forever. Autumn will come and go, as will winter. And then spring will peak its head out again and we’ll be making our way back to summer. And then (ugh) we get to do it again, maybe this time with a little more understanding, tolerance, and practice.
~ Kate Kripke, LCSW
I saw this cute girl at a coffee shop sitting all alone and I came up to her and asked her what she was drinking she told me “That’s none of your business” bitch I was trying to be fucking romantic and find love at a coffee shop
Fuck you and your fucking coffee
what do you mean normal people don’t change clothes 800 times a day
Hungry…but don’t wanna get up to get food.
White feminism is “Miley can dress however she wants, don’t slut shame her”
Actual feminism is “Miley can dress however she wants but she crossed a line when she started using another culture as a means to rebel and utilized black women and little people as shocking accessories in her music videos and live performances”
The theme of my lunch today: Let’s fry ALL of the things.
(I had chicken nuggets, fries, and onion rings for lunch)